100 to Nothing – Are You Kidding Me?
I’ve been preaching the profound truth of the Pareto Principle for years, otherwise known as the 80/20 rule. You know, the one that says you accomplish 80% of your work in 20% of your time, or that 80% of the money given to a church or organization is contributed by 20%of the people. The list of applications goes on and on. Test it and see – it’s amazingly accurate.
So an ad for a new little book called the 100/0 Principle caught my attention. Because I’ve been writing about relationships within the context of team building, I was captivated by the premise of author Al Ritter, who describes this is taking full responsibility (the 100) for a relationship, expecting nothing (the 0) in return. Say what? That doesn’t make sense. No, it’s revelation and it can transform a relationship. I’ve tested it in marriage and can tell you, it’s excruciating. It involves humility and tremendous self-discipline, including swallowing your pride and the tough exercise of holding your tongue. It means acting respectful and kind whether the person deserves it or not.
Ritter maintains The 100/0 Principle applies “to those people in your life where the relationships are too important to react automatically or judgmentally.” Well, that sounds like pretty much all relationships, doesn’t it? He suggests it includes work associates, customers, suppliers, family and friends. Yowza.
He goes on to describe the principle paradox by saying, “This may strike you as strange, but here’s the paradox: When you take authentic responsibility for a relationship, more often than not the other person quickly chooses to take responsibility as well. Consequently, the 100/0 relationship quickly transforms into something approaching 100/100. When that occurs, true breakthroughs happen for the individuals involved, their teams, their organizations and their families.
Brian Tracy said that 80% of life’s satisfaction comes from meaningful relationships. It that’s true (and I think the number may be higher) the 100/0 principle deserves serious consideration. If you are up for a supreme challenge, I dare you to test this on a relationship that’s not going smoothly. This is just a test and I promise it won’t be easy. But mark my words, it will be transformational.
To watch Simple Truth’s 3 min. clip on the book, Click HERE