No Legacy is So Rich as Honesty
Congruence is a concept I first learned in junior high. It’s a mathematical term used in geometry. The word came up again years later when I studied Neuro-Linguistic Programming and in that context still refers to alignment. It’s a principle that’s used in lie-detector tests and various forms of psychological testing as well as one we all use every day in filtering communications – whether we are conscious of it or not.
It is only when your core beliefs are in line with your message that you are congruent; it’s descriptive of integrity of thought and action which leads to credibility. To put it simply – it’s authenticity. And it’s only when you are honest with yourself that you can be consistent in your behavior with others.
All of this has a undeniable impact on both business and personal relationships. It’s paramount in sales but also in effective branding.
In addition to impacting our success in relationships, congruency plays a a major role in our ability to change. John Garfield, author of Desire to Destiny writes, “Our hearts are like thermostats that lead us, and keep us, exactly in our current station of life. We may think we can change by changing our minds or attitudes, but 90% of what we do comes right out of our hearts, and is very resistant to change.” There’s a distinct difference in the intellectual territory of the mind and the recesses of your heart.” Knowing yourself is the gateway to sustainable success.
Here are a few questions that will help you test your own congruency:
1. What are your core values?
2. Is anything you are doing this week violating those values?
3. What percentage of time do you feel satisfied and fulfilled in your work?
Who you are speaks so loudly, I can’t hear what you’re saying.
Your comments and feedback are welcome.