Sit Down and Stand Out
Americans are infamous for the pace at which we go through the day. It seems as if half the world might be sipping coffee in a proverbial sidewalk cafe, while we’re part of the crush of cars in rush hour traffic – frantic stops and starts, honking madly, squealing tires and gesturing rudely at one another through closed windows . Not a pretty picture.
But you’ve got places to go, people to see and things to do. So how do you slow down when your “to do” list is out the wazoo?
Learn to sit down on the inside. It’s an art. You can be busy without being stressed. I know – easier said than done. And some days I’m better at it than others.
But here’s 4 ways to sit down and stand out at the same time:
1) Be Authentic. The fake it until you make it days are OVER. I do believe I hear a collective sigh of relief. You don’t have to keep up with the Jones’ or anyone else. You are enough. Yes, you heard that right – YOU are enough. Not you HAVE enough, but you ARE enough. The rest is details. And will come with time.
2) Worry Strategically. I didn’t say “quit worrying” because you would have quit reading. But consider this, psychological research shows that approximately 40% of what we worry about simply won’t happen and 30% has already happened. Statistically, another 10% of worries are over health matters and another 10% goes into the miscellaneous category. Most of these worries fall into the “things you can’t change category” which means they are totally a waste of time. BUT… if you want to do the math for yourself, at least start a worry tablet and categorize your concerns, then allot an hour a week to focus on your worry tablet. Sound ridiculous? Try it. At the very least, you’ll get some laughs….
3) Laugh Daily. I have this one mastered to the point I can teach it. Lighten up. Even if it’s just enough for a quick laugh. Whether it’s calling a friend who always has a humorous perspective, seeing what the post of the day is on the silliest Facebook sites – whatever it might be that strikes you as funny – listen for the sound of your own laughter. It’s good medicine.
4) Make Measurable (even if it’s tiny) Progress on Something Meaningful Every Day. An intensive study by 2 Harvard Business School Professors who authored The Progress Principle: Using Small Wins to Ignite Joy, Engagement, and Creativity at Work shows that people’s “inner work lives” matter profoundly to their performance. The authors advise to religiously protect at least 20 minutes – ideally, much more – every day, to tackle something that matters most to you. The progress, and the mini-celebration of simply noting it, can lift you.
Now, there’s the four corners of a blanket of calm that you can pull up on yourself every day.
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