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Ruffled Feathers

June 4, 2012

In the world of birds, ruffled feathers can indicate a number of things;  the need to cool off, an attempt to appear larger because of being threatend, annoyed or fearful. It can even be a sign of a virus. An interesting figure of speech that describes people quite well.

With people, ruffled feathers refers to someone who is offended. Much as I hate to admit it, being offended is really just pride.  So, your sense of being right has been challenged, huh?  Welcome to the club. Most of us have opportunity to take offense at something someone has said or done at least on a daily basis.

Bottom line – it’s too expensive to go there. Negative feelings are viral and don’t have to be verbalized to be spread – nonverbal communication spreads just as fast.

Being offended leads to unforgiveness which opens the door to bitterness.  It’s said that bitterness is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.  If you’ve sipped of that poison, I HAVE THE ANTIDOTE!  It’s found in the book of Phillipians. I memorized this long ago and it serves me well…

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is fair, whatever is pure, whatever is acceptable, whatever is commendable, if there is anything of excellence and if there is anything praiseworthy-keep thinking about these things.”

Feathers ruffled? Shake it off.

Note: One of my taglines as a business coach is. “I work with teams to take the “dys” out of dysfunction and put the “fun” back in. I’ve had lots of experience with smoothing feathers. Let me know if I can help.